Somatic EMDR for Women: Change the Patterns Your Past Left Behind

You Know What Happened.

Your Body Still Reacts Like It’s Happening.

Somatic EMDR coaching to help you stop carrying your past into your relationships, your choices, and how you see yourself.

For the woman who's exhausted from holding it all together.

You’ve done the journaling. The podcasts. The mindset work. Maybe even years of therapy.

And your body still reacts like the danger never ended before you have a chance to think.

You might:

-Replay conversations long after they’re over

-Brace yourself for something to go wrong

-Shut down when emotions get too big

-People-please even when you want to say no

-Feel anxious when someone pulls away

-Know you’re safe, but struggle to actually feel safe

You can talk about what happened, journal about it, and understand exactly why you feel the way you do. But painful experiences aren’t held in words alone. They’re also connected to emotions, beliefs, memories, and what you feel in your body. Somatic EMDR works with those pieces too, which is why it can reach places talking alone doesn’t.

You don’t need more insight into why you do this.

You need a way to work with the part of you that’s still reacting.

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Woman feeling calm and confident after working through relationship patterns

What if you didn’t have to work this hard to feel secure?

  • Imagine being able to have a hard conversation without replaying it all night.

  • To say no without immediately wondering if they’re mad at you.

  • To let someone love you without waiting for them to leave.

  • To trust your decisions without asking everyone else what they think.

  • To remember what happened without feeling like you’re right back there again.

  • To stop carrying old relationships and experiences into your life now.

  • To feel confident in yourself, your choices, and your relationships.

    Your past can be part of your story without continuing to decide how you live your life today.

How Can Somatic EMDR Help Me?

Somatic EMDR helps you work with the experiences underneath the reactions that keep showing up in your relationships.

The work can help you:

  • Stop assuming someone is upset with you when something feels off

  • Have difficult conversations without shutting down or becoming overwhelmed

  • Stop replaying conversations and questioning everything you said

  • Set boundaries without being consumed by guilt afterward

  • Feel less afraid of rejection, conflict, or someone pulling away

  • Stop looking for reassurance that everything is okay

  • Trust yourself instead of constantly questioning your feelings and decisions

  • Feel safer being close to someone without waiting for something to go wrong

You don’t have to tell every detail of your story or spend session after session reliving what happened. We work with what comes up at a pace your nervous system can handle.

Your body isn’t the problem. It learned how to protect you. This work helps it learn that it doesn’t have to respond the same way forever.

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TESTIMONIALS

What People Are Saying

★ ★ ★ ★ ★

Danielle's way of being openly loving and compassionately insightful has helped me a great deal! She has held space for me in darkness and walked me through acceptance and towards my light! She is a life coach able to hold space through struggle as well as guide towards self-actualization! I'm so grateful for her in my life.

Candice K.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★

Working with Danielle was magic for me both personally and professionally. The skills, perspective, and practices I learned, I still embrace. They continue to help me get out and stay out of my own way. I’m more free now to see what isn’t productive, give up my circling in spaces that keep me unproductive, and, instead, put into practice what brings me the results I really want.

RuthAnn S.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★

I smoked for 28 years and honestly thought I’d probably always struggle with it because every time I tried to quit before, the emotional side completely took me out.What Danielle helped me with wasn’t just “stopping smoking.” It was finally feeling at peace without it.She has this very real, grounded way about her that instantly removes shame from the process. No pretending life is perfectly healed and linear. No judgment. Just genuine support and guidance through all the weird emotional bits that come up.During the EMDR session I felt everything from dizzy to emotional to strangely light afterwards. I even had a massive headache later that day 😅 but once it passed, something had shifted.Smoking stopped feeling like this constant thing in the back of my mind.The cravings became manageable instead of consuming and for the first time I genuinely felt calm about being a non-smoker instead of feeling like I was “missing” something.I’m now 9 weeks smoke free after nearly three decades of smoking, which still blows my mind a bit honestly.Very, very grateful for Danielle and the way she supported me through it ❤️

Magdalena H.

Somatic EMDR Packages

Support That Meets You Where You Are

Choose the level of support that feels right for where you are now. Whether you want a single session or more time to work with something deeper, each option moves at your pace and your nervous system’s capacity.

Single Session

1 Session

$160

Get support with one specific trigger, memory, or situation.

What's included:

  • A short intake at the beginning of the session.

  • One full Somatic EMDR session, moving at the pace your system can handle

Best for: Women who want support with one specific situation, trigger, or reaction that’s affecting them right now.

Reset

3 Sessions

$450

Start working through a specific experience that keeps affecting you today.

A starter package designed to introduce you to Somatic EMDR and give your nervous system its first real taste of what this work feels like.

What's included:

  • A personalized intake session to map your history, goals, and what's bringing you in

  • Two full Somatic EMDR sessions, moving at the pace your system can handle

  • Direct support from me throughout the package

Best for: Women who want to focus on one recurring issue that’s affecting their relationships, choices, or how they feel about themselves.

Regulate

5 Sessions

$700

Work through the reactions and patterns that keep showing up in your relationships.

*Most popular package.*

Save $100 compared to booking individually.

Five sessions of Somatic EMDR designed to give your nervous system the time and consistency it needs to actually shift. We move beyond introduction into deeper, sustained work, addressing what's been stuck and helping your system build new patterns of safety and regulation.

What's included:

  • A personalized intake session to set the foundation for our work

  • Four full Somatic EMDR sessions tailored to your nervous system's needs

  • Continuity and consistency that allow real change to land

  • Direct support from me throughout the package

Best for: Women who notice the same reactions showing up across different situations and want more time to work with the pattern underneath them.

Restore

8 Sessions

$1000

Go deeper into the experiences behind the patterns you’re ready to change.

Save $280 compared to booking individually. Best value.

Eight sessions of Somatic EMDR for women ready to go to the root. This is sustained, consistent work that gives your nervous system the depth and continuity it needs to truly rewire, and gives us the space to address layers most shorter packages can't reach.

What's included:

  • A personalized intake session to map the full landscape of where you are

  • Seven full Somatic EMDR sessions, sequenced to support deep, sustained shift

  • Space for your nervous system to integrate between sessions

  • Direct support from me throughout the package

Best for: Women who see these reactions affecting several areas of their relationships and life and want space to work with the different experiences and patterns that come up.

What Happens Next?

1. Choose the session or package that feels right for you and click Buy Now.

2. You’ll complete your purchase securely online and receive an email with everything you need to get started, including your intake form and a link to schedule your first session. Make sure to check your spam folder!

3. From there, we’ll start with what’s showing up for you right now and take the work one session at a time.

You don’t need to know exactly what you want to work on or where it comes from.

We’ll figure that out together.

Not Sure Which Package Is Right?

If you’re not sure where to start, that’s okay.

Book a free 20-minute Discovery Call, and we’ll talk about what you’re experiencing, what you’d like to work on, and which option makes the most sense for you.

No pressure. Just a conversation about where you are and what kind of support might fit.

BOOK A FREE DISCOVERY CALL

Meet your Somatic EMDR Coach

I’m Danielle Young, a Master Certified Life Coach, Certified Nervous System Trainer, trauma-informed yoga teacher, and Somatic EMDR-trained coach.

I bring Somatic EMDR into my coaching work alongside nervous system regulation, somatic practices, self-inquiry, grounding, and body awareness.

Every session meets you where your body actually is. We don’t force emotional processing or push you into experiences you’re not ready to work with.

We build safety, stability, and capacity first. Then we work with what’s ready to be processed.

Because healing doesn’t happen through force. It happens when your system has enough safety to do something different.

Danielle Young, somatic EMDR coaching

Who This Is For

Somatic EMDR may be a good fit for you if you:

  • Know why you react the way you do, but still can’t seem to stop it

  • Overthink conversations, read into changes in someone’s tone, or assume something is wrong

  • Shut down, people-please, get anxious, or pull away when something feels off

  • Struggle to trust yourself in relationships and second-guess your feelings or decisions

  • Find yourself repeating the same relationship patterns even though you know better

  • Carry old experiences into current relationships, even when you don’t want to

  • Feel like you’ve talked, journaled, reflected, and understood the hell out of it, but something still hasn’t changed

  • Want to work with what’s happening beneath the thoughts instead of having another conversation about why you feel this way

Who This Is Not For

Somatic EMDR may not be the right fit if you:

  • Are currently in crisis or don’t feel stable enough to work with difficult emotions, memories, or body sensations

  • Need a higher level of mental health support or ongoing care from a licensed mental health provider

  • Are looking for traditional talk therapy or primarily want a space to talk through what’s happening

  • Want advice or someone to tell you what you should do in your relationship

  • Are looking for couples counseling or want your partner involved in the sessions

  • Want to focus only on changing someone else’s behavior

  • Aren’t comfortable paying attention to emotions or sensations that come up during the work

  • Are looking for a quick fix or a guarantee that a certain number of sessions will resolve everything

  • Need mental health diagnosis, medication management, crisis care, or another service outside the scope of this work

FAQs

Frequently Asked

Questions

Is Somatic EMDR the same as EMDR therapy?

No. EMDR therapy is a clinical mental health treatment provided by licensed therapists. Somatic EMDR is a body-based, nervous-system-focused approach I integrate into coaching. It draws on bilateral stimulation as a tool within a somatic, embodiment-based framework, but it is not therapy and is not a substitute for clinical mental health treatment.

Do I need a specific traumatic event to benefit from this work?

No. Most of the women I work with don't identify with the word "trauma" at all. Years of chronic stress, emotional suppression, self-abandonment, relational wounds, caregiving without rest, or simply being "the strong one" leave nervous system imprints, even without a single identifiable event. If your body feels stuck in fight, flight, freeze, or shutdown, this work can help.

Can I do this online, or do I need to be in person?

I offer virtual coaching sessions for women worldwide. Somatic EMDR translates well to virtual work. Sessions are designed for that format from the start.

How long does it take to feel different?

Honestly, it depends. Every nervous system has its own timeline. Some women feel meaningful shifts within the first few sessions. Others need more time to build safety and capacity before deeper work can happen. This isn't about speed. It's about going at the pace your body can actually integrate. Forcing a faster timeline is often what got many of us stuck in the first place.

Who is this not a good fit for?

This work isn't right for someone in active crisis, managing untreated severe mental illness, or looking for a quick fix. If you're already working with a therapist and stable in that care, Somatic EMDR coaching can be a powerful complement. If you're not stable enough for coaching yet, please prioritize clinical support first. This work will still be here when the foundation is in place.

You Don't Have to Keep Living in Survival Mode

Your body isn’t broken.

Your nervous system adapted the best way it knew how.

Now it gets the chance to experience something different.

More calm. More safety. More connection. More self-trust.

More capacity to feel what you feel without it taking you over.

You deserve support that goes deeper than understanding why.

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A Note Before We Begin

Coaching is not therapy. I’m a Master Certified Life Coach trained in Somatic EMDR, not a licensed mental health professional.

This work is designed to complement, not replace, therapy, psychiatric care, or medical treatment.

If you’re experiencing a mental health crisis, severe trauma symptoms, or need clinical support, please work with a licensed mental health professional. I’m happy to work alongside that care when appropriate.

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